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The #1 New York Times best-selling guide to reducing hostility and generating goodwill between siblings.
Already best-selling authors with How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish turned their minds to the battle of the siblings. Parents themselves, they were determined to figure out how to help their children get along. The result was Siblings Without Rivalry. This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship. With humor and understanding―much gained from raising their own children―Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair. Updated to incorporate fresh thoughts after years of conducting workshops for parents and professionals, this edition also includes a new afterword.
Publisher : W. W. Norton & Company; Revised edition (April 9, 2012)
Language : English
Paperback : 288 pages
ISBN-10 : 0393342212
ISBN-13 : 978-0393342215
Item Weight : 2.31 pounds
Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.7 x 8.3 inches
Customers say
Customers find the book provides practical advice and simple tips that are easy to understand and implement. They appreciate the engaging, down-to-earth writing style with real-life examples and anecdotes. The narrative approach is described as powerful and effective. Customers find it valuable and worth their time. The suggestions work immediately, bringing peace and supportive relationships into their homes.
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Ellis U –
Most important parenting book I ever read
Our daughters are now in their 30s. When they were young, they rarely fought. They grew up as best friends and they remain best friends. For all of this, I credit the book. I have purchased it as a gift for couples expecting their second or third baby and they have been grateful.
Crystal Sard –
Couldn’t put it down!
I HIGHLY recommend this book if your kids are anywhere near mine and constantly bickering and fighting. I read this book I’m just a couple of days. It has a lot of great tips that are easy to implement. I’ve already started using some of the suggestions, and it has amazed me how it’s actually worked to diffuse situations. After I finished, I went through it again to re-read all of the things I highlighted just to refresh myself. I wish I had read this years ago when my kids were little.
Kaitlin M –
Great tips on managing sibling relationships!
I really enjoyed reading this book. I feel like it gives actionable tips to help shape your children’s relationship with one another. Here’s to having sisters who grow up together as friends and teammates against the world!
TW –
Qualified Advice to Dealing with Sibling Issues
If parenting books were to be solely judged on their practicality, Siblings Without Rivalry would rate well. The book delves into the issues of children that do not get along; from simple arguments to escalated physical conflicts.The presentation of the material revolves around stories straight out of a parenting classroom. With the vast number of issues and viewpoints coming from a multitude of parents, this style offers a wide range of advice to encompass many areas. The book also contains a number of illustrations showing children responding to good and bad methods. I’d venture to say if you only merely read the illustrations, these messages conveyed alone will give you ample insight to strengthen your parenting skills.The book is a reactive book, based on the notion that problems already exist. If you are seeking a book on merely promoting a positive atmosphere, this will not be what you are looking for. However, if you have children who do not get along as well as you would like, or perhaps you would at least like to see learn what parental mistakes might promote more difficulty, this book will prove to be well worth your time.
MOTB –
Thank you!
I am so thankful for this book. I consider myself a “good” parent, but after reading this book, I see so many changes that I am going to make in my parenting style! I am guilty of too much praising with my older son. Because he has behavioral issues, I am constantly looking to praise the good things that he does. Now I realize that it would be more beneficial for both he and his younger brother if I helped them feel pride in themselves and not get there kudos from me. I actually knew that from psych, but I didn’t know how to go about it. That’s what this book does – it gives really clear, easy to understand examples on what to say. Most of us have good intentions – and this book helps make them a reality. I love the familiar-voice writing style and the “group therapy” feel to it. It makes you feel like you are one of the parents in this book. The stories they share make me feel like they are watching me and my kids! I also liked how it said to allow angry feelings. I didn’t grow up like that – and it really opened my eyes. Fabulous book!
Barbara J. Dixon –
Motivational for me as a parent and a sibling
This was an eye-opener. I gave me insight into my family dynamics as a sibling and a daughter and especially as a newer parent. This book will help me to prevent some of the painful mistakes that many parents make unknowingly.
Kate Yoak –
The best parenting book I’ve ever encountered
This book reads like a novel. I literally could not put it down, staying up way past my bed time and paying the price the next day. It describes a multi-week workshop that the author held. Each week there are stories from the parents, ideas from the lecturer, questions, problems, hearts being poured out, family stories, including the tales of the adults (now parents) who survived difficult sibling situations. You get to know some of the people in the workshop, and you live through the ups and downs of applying workshop ideas to their families. You want things to end well and you wait with abated breath for what happens next.On top of that, the ideas are eye-opening, life-changing and at the same time so obvious! Like, how could I fail to see that?!Never have I encountered such an excellent read in parenting books, nor, come to think of it, any non-fiction that comes to mind. Just don’t start reading it at night! You could be a very cranky mommy in the morning!
Kerry Parker –
Great information. Easy read.
This book was very conversational in the writing style and therefore very easy to read and digest the information without being overwhelmed. It had some really helpful tips that I have already started implementing with my two young boys.
Michelle T Wallon –
This book is like an instruction manual for parenting. It provides very specific and clear steps for changing the way we communicate with children. When I made the changes described in the book, it had an immediate, positive effect!
Clara –
Recommend this to anyone who has or is planning to have multiple children, or even those who want to process their own sibling experiences. It is such a practical and powerfully insightful book
Marisa –
Excelente libro….TOP 3 libro para recomendar a papás con un segundo hijo en camino!!!! IncreÃble todo lo que presentan y la manera en la que lo hacen. expresa totalmente el sentir de los padres y las soluciones. Muy muy recomendado!!!
Richard Fernandez –
This book is full of great stories and ideas, and is very useful to even those with education or child development backgrounds. Exercises can be tried right away at home. Great way to help clients. Highly recommend.
Maartje –
leuk boek, vol afwisselende voorbeelden zit die je goed als ouder helpen om in te zien hoe het ook anders kan met weinig moeite. geschreven in vlotte stijl met humor.